Smoking in Arequipa….Let’s Just Do It EVERYWHERE!!

Smoking in Arequipa….Let’s Just Do It EVERYWHERE!!

Living in America definitely has its perks! One of them being that people can no longer smoke inside (in most states) and ruin the lungs, time, hair and clothing of their fellow attendees.  There is typically a dedicated ‘smoking area’ where people can decide to ruin their own lungs and the rest of us not have to suffer through it.  The best of these scenes is when it is 20 degrees outside and the smoker decides that though their feet are burning because of the cold, that they just need to get that cigarette ‘buzz’ with their drink. It is a very interesting phenomenon to me.

 

Let’s move right to current day Arequipa, Perú.  I have had two smoking incidents that really made me scratch my head and question whether or not I was going crazy.  Like literally, I was minding my own business and then all of a sudden my nose and throat began to burn.  Not only am I a million degrees above sea level….but I am fighting my way through cigarette smoke.  Here are two examples that really still stump me to this day.

 

Work.  So today actually, as I write this post, have smelled cigarette smoke twice.  This is a completely new idea to me as I cannot think of any one place in America that allows you to smoke in your place of work. Unless, of course, you work outside in a field somewhere.  I work in an office building where people (some of us…and usually not me) dress up nicely and make an effort to be very professional at work.  So the idea that I now have a headache and can barely breathe because the woman beside me needs a cigarette to get through her day is amazing to me.  Let me be clear and say that there is no circulation….no open windows….no real place for the smoke to escape to.  Just a cube wall that allows her smoke to come straight into my life.  My hair and my clothing will smell as if I just had an amazing time at the club, when in fact, I was sitting in my cubicle at WORK.  This is mind boggling to me and maybe I’m crazy, but I just never imagined that people would choose to smoke indoors on the job. ESPECIALLY if you are the only one doing it.  Think about your neighbors….and stop being selfish.  Take your raggedy cigarette and your 18-octave-too-deep-voice (bc you smoke a pack a day) having self OUTSIDE!  And please note that I am the only one who seems to notice or care…of course.

 

Gym.  Yes people, you read it correctly….AT THE GYM.  As I’ve mentioned in a few other posts, I have begun going to the gym about 4 days a week and though I hate the monotony of it, I am enjoying it because I am actually starting to see results.  On one of these faithful visits I was on the treadmill when I began to realize that my nose was burning and that I could not breathe.  Then I went on further to deduce that it was because my lungs were filling with cigarette smoke.  Like really??  Who in the world does that? ‘Yup…just finished working on these abs..let me light up a cigarette’. And just as in the first example, no one seemed to be appalled and bothered by this except for me. I was the only one looking around like a maniac to see who had the nerve to be lighting up in the gym.  *Sigh*  I never found him/her, but I was aggravated just the same.  I pushed through and finished my workout, but it was definitely not a pleasant experience.

 

So there are the two examples of why I, now than ever before, hate cigarettes and cigarette smoke.  If you decide that smoking is ‘your thing’ do us all a favor and go far, far away to smoke because some of us have allergies and cannot handle it.  I had big plans on putting this in the ‘Annoyances of Latin America: Part II’ article that I plan to write, but I quickly decided that this needed its own post after this woman lit up her second one in my presence.  I am utterly annoyed, aggravated, wheezing, sniffing, eyes watering, etc….which are all caused  by cigarette smoke and fresh spring pollen.  Thank you cube neighbor….you are now on my list!

 

That is all….

 

Kisses on the Job

Kisses on the Job

I know you cannot see Michelle Obama’s face in this picture, but I assure you that she is cringing just like you are…

 

As I was heading to the bathroom today at work and greeting people on the way there, I was struck by how one guy in particular said ‘hola’ to me as I walked by, but greeted another female with a kiss. This really got me thinking that, I have really not be delving into the cultural aspects of working in Latin America by actively avoiding my ‘kisses’. Yes…I will admit it upfront…I actively avoid the kiss on the cheek.

 

Anyone that has visited or lived in Latin America….or that has Latino friends…should know that in Latin America it is customary to greet individuals with a kiss on the cheek. Some countries require two! And honestly, for me, this is sometimes very uncomfortable…especially at work. Now obviously I come from a culture where work is work….the closest you get to people is a handshake..unless you are operating in some ‘funny business’ with a co-worker (which I have never done and do not recommend). I am one of those people that separates the two lives. Work is work…ask me what you need and be gone. I don’t really need much more from you.

 

Quickly let me touch on the dynamics of the Latin American kiss and why it can be disgusting.  According to Wikipedia:

 

In Latin America, cheek kissing is a universal form of greeting between a man and a woman or two women. It is not necessary to know a person well or be intimate with them to kiss them on the cheek.

 

This seems very harmless and under most circumstances it is.  You simply put yourself cheek-to-cheek with an unknown individual (or with someone you  know) and you make the kiss sound.  Now, it gets super sketchy and gross when you are preparing to do this with a guy and he decides to use his actual lips on your cheek. Come on now….at work….?!?! That is just disgusting!! As far as I know, I don’t have any ‘touchy-lip’ bandits in my office, but knowing that they exist in the world is what always makes the kiss an ‘unknown’ of the workplace….and of life in general.

 

In Peru, work has the same norms as your day-to-day life (read: outside of work life). When you arrive at work, you speak to everyone as you normally would, but if you visit someone’s desk or pass them in the hallway, you should be prepared for a kiss. Now I don’t know if I am giving the ‘don’t touch me vibe’, but I have today become very aware of the fact that I’m not really getting a lot of kisses. Now let me be clear, this does not bother me one bit, but it does make me think that I am not doing everything that I can do be apart of the office ‘norms’. I don’t know if Im forgiven for this by virtue of being American or if people are secretly giving me the side-eye for being rude.

 

Things that make you go hmmmm? Just an observation that I thought I’d share. Anyone have any insights? Should I go in for the kiss first or keep it moving? Uggggh…why is Latin America so touchy-feely!?!??!

 

Weeks 8, 9 & 10: Project Update Y Más…

As a public service to my readers, I will only write weekly updates if there is something to share.  As is with life in the US, things become very regular and ‘ho-hum’ so I won’t bore you with the monotony of my life…only the exciting monotony…hehe.  Weeks 8-10 have been full of more adjusting, but really just full of the boringness that comes with settling into a new life.  I do still have my bouts of emotional homesickness and unending food cravings (everyone knows I’m a foodie aka Greedy), but all in all I would say that life is shaking out pretty well for me here in Arequipa.  I am going to the gym at least 4x a week and doing a set of ab and leg exercises in the house daily and the goal is to keep this up for 30 days straight so that I can build the habit and hopefully incorporate into my ‘real’ life without much thought or effort.  I really hope to use this time in Arequipa to create a better me, both physically and mentally….we shall see how that shakes out.

 

I have also decided to start taking some private Spanish lessons so as to accelerate my learning…Why? Because I am realizing that I have gone whole days without having a conversation with anyone.  At my job, I sit on a different floor than my team so I never see them.  So beyond ‘Hola’ and ‘Buenos Dias/Tardes’ which I use to get in and out of this place, I am at my desk and on my computer chatting with friends in English.  Then I leave work and go to the gym where people are not talking to me because they are working out…..and then I go home and sleep.  So I am exactly duplicating my time in DR and using English as my primary source of communication, which will do NOTHING for my progress.  I refuse to waste this year, so I am taking matters into my own hands.  Private tutor, 3 hours, comes to my home and all for $25??? SIGN ME UP!!

 

Project Update:  The project ‘DreamBuilder: The Women’s Business Creator’ has started to see some movement for me here in Arequipa.  I recently had a meeting with one of our partners and by meeting I mean that I presented to 7 people (in Spanish) about our program and explained what we would need from them.  Luckily they were very interested in the program and will be helping us with the testing phase of the project and helping us to find a sample of women to test the program on.  So for me that is GREAT progress because I have been sitting a little stagnant in terms of progress…and am excited to see some movement.  I will keep you guys updated on this as we go along since this is actually why I am here in the first place.

 

Eva Ayllón:  Peruvian Mother’s Day is today and based on that, they have had a string of concerts in the city to honor ‘las madres’.  One of those concerts, I am SOOOOOO happy to say, was Eva Ayllon.  For those of you don’t know…Eva is an Afro-Peruvian artist and I have been dying to see her in concert since I learned that I would be moving to Peru.  Here is a little blurb on Eva…

 

Eva Ayllón (born February 6, 1956 as María Angélica Ayllón Urbina), a composer and singer, is one of Peru‘s foremost Afro-Peruvianmusicians, and one of the country’s most enduring stars.

 

I went to the concert on Thursday night of this week with a fellow expat friend from Iowa.  In a word, the concert was AMAZING! Exactly what I needed to recharge and get my head back into the game.  I am now even more interested in learning more about the black culture of Perú.  Much of the music that Eva sings is from that community and it just inspired me to learn more.  Really enjoyed it, you can learn more about that evening here.

 

Meanwhile, all is well on the home front…thanks for continuing to check-in on my world…..

 

Eva Ayllón Live in Arequipa

I was lucky enough to be able to finally see Eva Ayllón live last night.  For those of you that do not know, Eva Ayllón is an afro-peruvian singer based out of Lima.  She is one of the best known singers in the genre and is very proud of her African roots….as can be seen in her music and her concerts.  She has a powerful voice and lots of energy…so to say the concert was amazing is the understatement of the year.  This women performs with so much energy and not once did she take a break in the whole two hours that she was on stage…I was very impressed.  Eva brought along a dancer to accompany some of her songs, which was a real treat for me.  As someone that is really interested in learning about the black culture of Perú, seeing the dances live and in person was really inspiring. I am now motivated to make some solo trips to different parts of Perú so that I may learn more about this ‘hidden’ treasure in Perú.

 

Luckily for you, I have compiled some of the video that I took last night and put it into the video above.  Please forgive me for the video quality, but I didn’t have the best seats so my camera was struggling.  Next time I will definitely be much closer to the action.  All in all I think you will enjoy the video as it is full of culture and pride in being ‘chocolate’…so you know I love it :-) .

 

P.S.  I also included a few pictures of my dinner leading up to the concert (click here to see pics).  I tried a Moroccan place and it was yummy!

 

Happy Thursday!

Happy Thursday!

Since I have been pretty quiet on the ‘blog post front’, I decided to post an advertisement that I saw while doing a little grocery shopping here in Arequipa.  Yes, what you see is an ad for men’s diapers and why we need such a visual graphic for mens diapers…I will never know.  I tried to think of something really clever and inspiring for this post, but it is what it is.  I was in the grocery store, saw an old man in diapers and decided that THIS should be on my blog.  Oh the things we see outside the U.S..  Do you think an ad like this would fly in the U.S.? I don’t….but to different strokes right? (maybe not the best way to end this post considering this man is draped across a bed of some sort in his undies aka diaper…but ok I’m walking away…)

 

Happy Thursday!!

 

 

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